寻找自己

Looking around me, people have been getting into and out of relationships.

But one thing which I have realised is how people behave almost the same after they broke up. My personal thoughts though.

Realised whenever couples break up,

1) Either party tend to suddenly become very 'on' about things.
2) Either party like to show to people that they have moved on and living an even happier life.
3) EIther party like to suddenly change their dress sense and the way they behave.
4) Either party like to attribute all faults to the other party.
5) Either party like to put happy nick and post unbelievable happy blog entries when they just broke up.

In a nutshell, I think whenever people break up, self worth suddenly took a toll. And people desperately try to find back him/herself. That's what i feel.

Went online to search about "breaking up"

Found this at http://teenadvice.about.com/cs/breakingup/a/breakuphelper.htm. Kinda interesting while i was reading it. haha

1) Avoid the former love. Yes, avoid. No, this isn’t being immature. Seeing your former flame can bring out emotions and may cause you do to or say something you will regret. In the first few weeks the best thing you can do for yourself is not be where you know they will be.

2)Talk out your feelings with close friends. Get everything out so that you won’t hold it inside. Your friends may get sick of hearing you talk about the situation but you need to let out all your feelings and thoughts or they may come back to bite you later.

3)Cry if you want to. It’s OK to cry over a loss. Don’t hold back, let the tears roll just do it in a safe and private place where it is unlikely to get back to your ex. You don’t want your tears to be used as a guilt trip. Their purpose is to cleanse you of any pain not make your lover come back.

4)Let go of mementos. Put away or give away anything and everything that reminds you of the relationship. Hide them out of sight so they will be out of mind until you are able to remember the relationship without longing for it to still be going strong.

5)Don’t slip up and get together with your ex. When you are feeling sad or missing a relationship it can be very easy to fall back in to the arms of your ex but DO NOT DO THIS. This will only set you back and let’s face it, if things ended the relationship wasn’t perfect to begin with so why would you want to rekindle things?

6)Focus on all the things about your ex that drove you crazy, turned you off, or that you just plain found annoying. Think about these things often and replay them in your mind over and over. Dwell on them. It will make you feel better to remember that your former flame was not perfect and that there are things you won’t really miss.

7) Think about the mean, cruel or rude things your ex may have done in your relationship. Really give these things play in your memory. Remind yourself that somebody who truly cared for you would not have done such thoughtless things and tell yourself (over and over) that you are better off without that kind of ego crushing behavior in your life.

8) Maintain a strict no contact policy and stick with it. Don’t pass notes through friends. Don’t make any calls. Stay away from instant messaging or texting on your cell. Just don’t contact your ex until you are totally and completely sure you no longer want to be with him or her. It is the only way.

Looking back, i think I am really doing well. haha. I did msg her to ask how is she doing in life which means i am totally and completely sure that i no longer want to be with her. haha.

“It's scientifically confirmed that exercise improves your mood, and the distraction will help keep your mind off the situation. Go running outside, maybe with a friend, and think of releasing the anger or sadness with every step.” --->and now i know why I like running and gyming so much. And that reminds me of stand chart 42 km. For once, i regretted signing up. The run surely won't relieve me of the anger or sadness. It will only bring me pain. Physical pain. Blisters and sores.

anyway,

"Think of a breakup this way: you're one step closer to the one you're meant to be with"

Breaking up is the beginning of new transition in your life. It's easy to look at an experience in a negative way, but see it positively as a real chance for finding your Mr. or Ms. Right.

Good luck, peeps.