"I want to grow old with you"

Went blog surfing... Read this from that blog and decided to paste it over here.

"On my wedding day, I carried my wife in my arms. The bridal car stopped in front of our one-room flat. My buddies insisted that I carry her out of the car in my arms. So I carried her into our home. She was then plump and shy. I was a strong and happy bridegroom.This was the scene of ten years ago.The following days were as simple as a cup of pure water: we had a kid,I went into business and tried to make more money. When the assets were steadily increasing, the affections between us seemed to ebb. She was a civil servant. Every morning we left home together and got home almost at the same time. Our kid was studying in a boarding school.Our marriage life seemed to be enviably happy. But the calm life was more likely to be affected by unpredictable changes.Dew came into my life.It was a sunny day. I stood on a spacious balcony. Dew hugged me from behind. My heart once again was immersed in her stream of love. This was the apartment I bought for her.Dew said, You are the kind of man who best draws girls eyeballs. Her words suddenly reminded me of my wife. When we just married, my wife aid, Men like you, once successful, will be very attractive to girls.Thinking of this, I became somewhat hesitant. I knew I had betrayed my wife. But I couldn t help doing so.I moved Dew's hand aside and said, You go to select some furniture,O.K.? I ve got something to do in the company. Obviously she was unhappy, because I had promised her to go and see with her. At the moment, the idea of divorce became clearer in my mind although it used to be something impossible to me.However, I found it rather difficult to tell my wife about it. No matter how mildly I mentioned it to her, she would be deeply hurt. Honestly,she was a good wife. Every evening she was busy preparing dinner. I was sitting together. Or, I was lounging before the computer, visualizing Dew’s body. This was the means of my entertainment.One day I said to her in a slight joking way, suppose we divorce, what will you do? She stared at me for a few seconds without a word.Apparently she believed that divorce was something too far away from her. I couldn t imagine how she would react once she got to know I was serious.When my wife went to my office, Dew had just stepped out. Almost all the staff looked at my wife with a sympathetic eye and tried to hide something while talking with her. She seemed to have got some hint. She gently smiled at my subordinates. But I read some hurt in her eyes.Once again, Dew said to me, He Ning, divorce her, O.K.? Then we live together. I nodded. I knew I could not hesitate any more.When my wife served the last dish, I held her hand. I ve got something to tell you, I said.She sat down and ate quietly. Again I observed the hurt in her eyes.Suddenly I didn t know how to open my mouth. But I had to let her know what I was thinking. I want to divorce. I raised a serious topic calmly.She didn t seem to be much annoyed by my words, instead she asked me softly, why? . I m serious. I avoided her question. This so-called answer turned her angry. She threw away the chopsticks and shouted at me, you are not a man!At that night, we didn t talk to each other. She was weeping. I knew she wanted to find out what had happened to our marriage. But I could hardly give her a satisfactory answer, because my heart had gone to Dew.With a deep sense of guilt, I drafted a divorce agreement which stated that she could own our house, our car, and 30% stake of my company. She glanced at it and then tore it into pieces. I felt a pain in my heart.The woman who had been living ten years with me would become a stranger one day. But I could not take back what I had said.Finally she cried loudly in front of me, which was what I had expected to see. To me her cry was actually a kind of release. The idea of divorce which had obsessed me for several weeks seemed to be firmer and clearer.A late night, I came back home after entertaining my clients. I saw her writing something at the table. I fell asleep fast. When I woke up, I found she was still there. I turned over and was asleep again.She brought up her divorce conditions: she didn t want anything from me,but I was supposed to give her one months time before divorce, and in the month s time we must live as normal life as possible. Her reason was simple: our son would finish his summer vacation a month later and shedidn t want him to see our marriage was broken.She passed me the agreement she drafted, and then asked me, He Ning, do you still remember how I entered our bridal room on the wedding day?This question suddenly brought back all those wonderful memories to me.I nodded and said, I remember . You carried me in your arms , she continued, so, I have a requirement, that is, you carry me out in your arms on the day when we divorce. From now to the end of this month, you must carry me out from the bedroom to the door every morning.I accepted with a smile. I knew she missed those sweet days and wished to end her marriage with a romantic form.I told Dew(BITCH) about my wife s divorce conditions. She laughed loudly and thought it was absurd. No matter what tricks she does, she has to face the result of divorce, she said scornfully. Her words more or less made me feel uncomfortable.My wife and I hadn t had any body contact since my divorce intention was explicitly expressed. We even treated each other as a stranger. So when I carried her out for the first day, we both appeared clumsy. Our son clapped behind us, daddy is holding mummy in his arms. His words brought me a sense of pain. From the bedroom to the sitting room, then to the door, I walked over ten meters with her in my arms. She closed her eyes and said softly, Let us start from today, don t tell our son. I nodded, feeling somewhat upset. I put her down outside the door. She went to wait for bus, I drove to office.On the second day, both of us acted much more easily. She leaned on mychest. We were so close that I could smell the fragrance of her blouse. I realized that I hadn t looked at this intimate woman carefully for along time. I found she was not young any more. There were some finewrinkles on her face.On the third day, she whispered to me, The outside garden is being demolished. Be careful when you pass there.On the fourth day, when I lifted her up, I seemed to feel that we were still an intimate couple and I was holding my sweetheart in my arms. The visualization of Dew became vaguer.On the fifth and sixth day, she kept reminding me something, such as,where she put the ironed shirts, I should be careful while cooking, etc.I nodded. The sense of intimacy was even stronger.I didn t tell Dew about this.I felt it was easier to carry her. Perhaps the everyday workout made me stronger. I said to her, It seems not difficult to carry you now.She was picking her dresses. I was waiting to carry her out. She tried quite a few but could not find a suitable one. Then she sighed, All my dresses have grown fatter. I smiled. But I suddenly realized that it was because she was thinner that I could carry her more easily, not becauseI was stronger. I knew she had buried all the bitterness in her heart.Again, I felt a sense of pain. Subconsciously I reached out a hand to touch her head.Our son came in at the moment. Dad, it s time to carry mum out. He said.To him, seeing his father carrying his mother out had been an essential part of his life. She gestured our son to come closer and hugged him tightly. I turned my face because I was afraid I would change my mind at the last minute. I held her in my arms, walking from the bedroom,through the sitting room, to the hallway. Her hand surrounded my neck softly and naturally. I held her body tightly, as if we came back to our wedding day. But her much lighter weight made me sad.On the last day, when I held her in my arms I could hardly move a step.Our son had gone to school. She said, Actually I hope you will hold me in your arms until we are old.I held her tightly and said, Both you and I didn t notice that our lifewas lack of such intimacy.I jumped out of the car swiftly without locking the door. I was afraid any delay would make me change my decision. I walked upstairs. Dew opened the door. I said to her, Sorry, Dew, I won t divorce. I'm serious.She looked at me, astonished. The she touched my forehead. You got no fever. She said. I moved her hand off my head. Sorry, Dew, I said, I can only say sorry to you, I won t divorce. My marriage life was boring probably because she and I didn t value the details of life, not because we didn t love each other any more. Now I understand that since I carried her into the home, she gave birth to our child, I am supposed to hold her until I am old. So I have to say sorry to you.Dew seemed to suddenly wake up. She gave me a loud slap and then slammed the door and burst into cry. I walked downstairs and drove to the office.When I passed the floral shop on the way, I ordered a bouquet for my wife which was her favorite. The salesgirl asked me to write the greeting words on the card. I smiled and wrote, I'll carry you out every morning until we are old."

The showdown

A Brief moment of online application. A mouse click to deduct $30 plus for this run sent me for a 2 hrs plus run up the sheares bridge through east coast, marina barge and to the padang in my sweat drenched singlet and shorts.

The run was supposed to flag off at 6.30 but something cocked up and ended up we were at starting line at 7.20 together with the 10 km runners. WE were going for 21 km, not 10 km. So we have to tell the organisers that we were from the earlier batch. Thanks goodness, they allow us to start off before the 10 km flag off at 7.30.

Had a tough time trying to catch up with the main pack, considering we were 50 mins late. But not bad, we managed to catch up with the main pack.

The first 17km was okie. But after that, the distance just didn't seem to move. 18.... 19... 20... 20.5?!?! 20.7.... 20.9.... 21!!! Finally. My timing at the gate was 2hr 57 mins. Minus the 50 mins time lag... minus the 5 mins i spent queueing up for toilet at East coast park. I think i slightly over 2 hrs. Not that bad la. COnsidering i ran 1 hr 40 mins during NS 5 years back. 20 mins more over 5 years. It means I deteroriate at a rate of 4 mins per year. Okie la.

One thing for sure. While i was crossing the 21 km finishing line, I had this in my mind.... I need to do another 21 km to complete the 42 km marathon at the end of the year. It's crazy. Why did i sign up in the first place? Doing the registration at the comfort of ur home realli doesn't seem to bring in the actual circumstances i will be facing. I better start training.

Anyway the tag in the pic is not mine. I took it from my friend's blog. hah

I rise...... to the occasion

The impending hrs of suffering tomorrow.. out from the bridge in front of esplanade, up that Sheares bridge, across the east coast park, through the marina and back to the padang... 21 km..

It's not about winning the race... it's about how you run the race.

The preparation to the race... the weekly runs with Leeann and John... The weekly gym with Colin... The forever struggle within me during every runs.

ANyway, i still have more to prepare for the Stand chart run in Dec. At least I can train with Leeann cos she signed up too. She is good la... One week 3 runs after work.. So disciplined.

"Rise to the occasion" by CLimie Fisher


This part of the lyrics is good..

"Rise to the occasion
We'll get through this situation
Be each other's inspiration
I'll rise to the occasion
I'll give you real apprecation
I'll be your inspiration"

"Don't let life discourage you; everyone who got to where he is had to begin from where he was"

"If one dream shall fall and break into a thousand pieces, never be afraid to pick up one of the pieces and begin again."

Anorexia....

Caught the movie " Bad Habits" ... A spanish film.. Filmed in Mexico..

Synopsis of the show...
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Matilde is a nun convinced that faith moves mountains. Secretly she begins a mystic fasting to end what she considers to be the second great flood. Elena is a thin and fashion-conscious woman ashamed of her daughter's chubbiness. She's willing to do the impossible to make her daughter Linda thin so Linda will look like a little princess on the day she receives her first communion. At the same time Elen's husband Gustavo, a professor of architecture - cannot cope any more with his wife's bones sticking into him during more intimate moments. For relief, he turns his attention to a buxom female student with a hearty appetite.

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I felt sad for the little gal in the show.. The mom is an anorexic herself and she hates seeing her kid fat... To the extent that the mom finds other slimmer girls prettier than her little kid.. In the end, the little gal dripped more than the prescribed amount of appetite suppressing medication in her mom's water... Her mom died but the little gal didn't know that wat she dripped was onli placebo... The real cause: Her mom died of being too thin.... Malnutrition..

The coming sun... THe few hours of suffering... the indescribable sense of acconplishment.. Army Half Marathon. 21 km.... I am NOT PREPARED!

Anyway... a very nice ad from discovery channel.. Enjoy

Running slows aging process

Read this article from http://www.channelnewsasia.com/stories/health/view/367052/1/.html

WASHINGTON :
Running can slow the aging process, according to a study conducted over two decades by American researchers and published on Monday.

The study by the Stanford University School of Medicine found that people over 50 who ran regularly over several years suffered fewer disabilities, had a longer span of active life and reduced their risk of dying early by 50 per cent compared to those who were inactive.

"The study has a very pro-exercise message," said James Fries, MD, an emeritus professor at the medical school and the study's senior author.

"If you had to pick one thing to make people healthier as they age, it would be aerobic exercise."

The study, published in the Archives of Internal Medicine, tracked 538 people over 50 who had run several times a week since 1984 and compared them to a similar group of non-runners.

As the subjects aged, the health gap between the runners and non-runners widened, continuing even into their 90s.

"We did not expect this," said Fries, 69, himself an avid runner. "The health benefits of exercise are greater than we thought."

He attributed this to runners having a leaner body mass and generally healthier habits.

Running's effect on delaying death also was more dramatic than the researchers had expected -- nineteen years after the study began, 34 per cent of the non-runners had died, compared to just 15 per cent of the runners.

- AFP/il

The benefits abt running. But the question is does anyone want to live longer than his friends around him?